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New Baby? 7 Tidbits for you to enjoy.

12 Apr

Ahh, a new baby! No, not for us! BUT a family member is having her first baby & I am sooo happy for her!
With her news I can’t help but reflect on my own feelings of my first arrival & all the advice people gave me. Of what helped or didn’t & what the biggest surprises were.
I don’t think telling people about the worst to come can ever really prepare a person for a child, so I don’t like to share unnecessary things that just scare a person.
I understand people’s intent sometimes to let you know the reality of raising kids but some stories are pointless. The thing that helped me prepare for raising a kid was helping to raise a kid when I was younger & even that is different when it’s your own kid throwing up on you versus someone else’s hahaha.
But if I could give a new mom some words from my experience, I would say;
1. Enjoy your pregnancy to the fullest!
Take pics, sleep, give in to your cravings sometimes. Don’t be afraid of labor;God MADE your body for this. Don’t worry if it doesn’t go to plan, just cherish your baby when they arrive.
2. You will be AMAZED at how much LOVE you can have for this little baby!
No one can tell you in words the utter & TOTAL love you will have for this baby & the more you bond…ahh, is amazing.

3. Know that it WILL change you & that’s ok, it should.

I don’t want to be the person I was before I had kids, not because I was a bad person but because of the things I’ve learned & grown in. Every experience we have shapes us into who we are, to be exactly who I was before kids would be as if I never had them. God has taught & showed me SO much through my children & i’m glad & grateful to have learned it.

4. It’s ok to feel WHATEVER you feel.

If you feel like crying, cry. After pregnancy, hormones are all over the place & you’re experiencing a flurry of new emotions & feelings. When my son would cry, it affected me physically. I couldn’t explain it but it just did. Yet the greatest gift my husband could give me was allowing me to just be me,

It’s also okay to feel sad. Most woman feel some sadness after having a baby for a VARIETY of reasons & all of those are normal to have. But if you can’t shake it & even begin to have dark thoughts find someone to talk to.

5. Go outside.There’s something about being in God made nature that calms us (& our babies too) & the change of scenery can really do a lot.

6. Time away. If you can find somebody to watch your baby while you get a breather, you can come back with fresh arms & a whole lot more patience for your little one. If you can’t get away just yet you feel like you’re going to lose it, put the baby in a safe place & walk away. We’ve ALL been there, i mean SHOOT, armies use baby crying to torture people to surrender so it shouldn’t surprise us that we don’t like it either.

Referring back to #5 grab your keys (so you don’t accidentally lock yourself out : P & step outside.

In some of my hardest times, I’ve laid the baby/babies in their cribs, went into the bathroom & turned on the  fan just to get a minute away & recoup myself.

7. The days are long & the years are short. It won’t last forever, I know it feels impossible to fathom sometimes but it won’t. One day it will be your last with them. The last bottle, the last rocking to sleep, the last time you have to re swaddle them. All those things we love & hate about motherhood/raising kids will be gone one day.I say Pray. Pray for God to let you hold on to those sweet memories or to realize them as they happen. Pray for courage to stay, to be near & bond with them.

I could go on & on but I’ll stop right here & ask others what is the best thing they learned or would want others to know when a new baby comes around?

To the readers..

23 Sep

It’s been so long since I’ve posted on here. In large part to just being so caught up in life as a wife & stay at home mom. I sometimes think people will never fully comprehend what a  person in my role does.

Anyways, I’d like to hear from anybody reading this post. The tired out mommy, the burnt out father or just the person who is curious about what I could POSSIBLY be tired from : But I’d like a glimpse into all of your lives, maybe just whats going on & hey if you could use a little prayer your way, i’d be more than happy to give it 🙂

20 Comebacks for “Was it Planned?”

21 Jan

I don’t know what it is about being pregnant that makes people feel like they can say whatever they want or ask you personal questions as if they are asking you about the weather. But for people asking you “Was it planned?” could be pretty personal.

I saw a AWESOME blog post with 20 comebacks to this question & I had to re-post this!

You can chek out the original post here.. http://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/0102201420-comebacks-for-the-pregnancy-question-was-it-planned/

1. “Was what planned?” Toss that at them and just let the awkward moment fester.

2. “Yes, of course. And it was AMAZING.” Awkward x 1000.

3. “I keep meaning to find out how babies are made, but I’ve just been so busy.”

4. “Was that question planned?”

5. “Depends on who you ask.” And then *wink*.

6. “Yes, it was planned by God.”

7. “We’ve always wanted children.”

8. “No, I really don’t know how this happened.” Warning though, that might lead to a whole different conversation you never wanted to have in the supermarket line.

9. “Why do you ask?”

10. “The sex was, but the baby was a bonus.”

11. “This was the best surprise of my life.”

12. “Isn’t everything part of a bigger plan?”

13. “Damn straight!”

14. “Wow, that’s a really personal question!”

15. “Does it matter?”

16. “We are so excited!”

17. “Bow chicka wow wow…” Seriously can someone please do this and report back?

18. “Have you ever read the book Fifty Shades of Grey?….” and then trail off and bite your lip.

19. “The baby was, the stretch marks were not.”

20. “It’s a miracle, isn’t it?”

I suppose the right thing to do is to just go with the flow and hope that everyone means well, even if they don’t. And I know we should all just answer with grace, but really, what’s the fun in that?

My personal favs are #6,9,14 & 18 : D What questions did/do YOU hate being asked?

What would you like to see comeback responses for??

2 under two- 4 tips to help raise two children under the age of two

25 Sep

That’s right, two kids under the age of 2! Some will have 3 under three! In our case my kids are 21 months apart so it wasn’t for long but it is still HARD work!
Even before I was expecting baby #2 I would sometimes wonder what little tips&/or tricks parents of multiple children did. Whenever I came across mothers with more than 1 kid I’d always ask what they did & they just kind of shrugged the question off or would tell me that by only having 1 kid I got it easy…thanks.
So after having my second I wanted to pass along any little tidbits I picked in the hopes that they might be able to help somebody else out 🙂

1. Baby wearing – when they are newborns they LOVE being next to mommy, especially when they’re held close. Hearing her voice, smelling her scent, & even hearing her heartbeat. So wearing a homemade moby wrap with my son inside was great in freeing up my hands. After about 3 wks I would put in the wrap & nurse him while I made myself something to eat or spent one-on-one time with my older son.
If you’re not mom & you want to baby wear that’s great too, for added comfort you can get a shirt mom had been wearing & put it where baby can smell it.
2. Organization!

This is a big one which is also easy to get lazy on. I like to be a little more  baby led on activities, but when my second son was born I  had to organize & prepare more. Now even though I stay at home with the kids, I took some notes from my sister who took her daughter to daycare.

-If you bottle feed, you can prepare the bottles the night before. This is especially helpful if they wake up in the middle of the night or want one 1st thing in the morning.

-For my older child I made his snacks & meals ahead of time. PB&J, goldfish in a baggie, a cup of milk in the fridge. He was old enough to the pantry door, so I would  put his prepared snacks in the pouches. This saved me SO much stress in running back & fourth trying to get him more food or a different snack after he’d finish. It also allowed me enough time to nurse my younger one & lay him down uninterrupted.

3. Getting up early

I’m not a morning person, like..at all. I also hate waking up earlier than I have to : p BUT it was REALLY nice to have a peaceful start to my day where I got to read my bible a little bit & eat my bowl of cereal : D

You start to know when your kids will wake up & 15 mins can go quick but give you those few mins to yourself that you may not get until nap time : p

4. Establish nap/quiet time

My mom told me, “Even if they don’t sleep, put them in their crib, give yourself an hour, this will help you soo much” & she was right. When my youngest fell asleep for his nap time, I put my older son in his crib as well. If he wasn’t tired I gave him a book & 2 toys. That boy LOVES his bed & would even ask to go to it in the middle of the day or when HE wants a break from his younger brother : D

But it was a HUGE boost for me to get through the rest of the day & a nice little break for everyone.

Do you have any tips for raising multiple children? What things would you add?

Free diapers with insurance/Medicaid

23 Aug

I am learning so much more about the benefits insurance companies can really
provide.
In a previous post I talked about getting a free breast pump & now I’m learning that insurance may even be able to help with diapers!
If you have a child who is allergic to disposable diapers, you can have your pediatrician write a prescription to your insurance company & get cloth diapers!!
Now I’m not sure which kind of diapers you get or can choose but still, if your kid needs them, every bit will help!

Also, if you have a child with special needs, insurance can send you diapers after a certain age. The age varies by state but the earliest I saw was age 3. Again, you’ll have to submit a prescription from your pediatrician. Some parents said their insurance required specific wording such as ‘required’ & even stating what your child’s need is. All details will probably vary with different insurances but for some children who will be in diapers longer it can be a financial help. You’re already paying into the insurances so why not get the full use of which they were put there.
I hope this helps some parents out there & be sure to pass the word along to anyone who could use it 🙂

Free breast pump!? Uh, Yes please!!

25 Jul

Free breast pump? No it’s not a scam :-p
2 years ago, after having some nursing issues, I found myself searching for a decent breast pump. I settled on a Medela Pump in style which is a single pump. Fast forward to last weekend….I’m now on my second son & due to nursing issues (yet again, sigh)I am exclusively pumping & this pump is rapidly declining!

I begin the dreaded search for another pump when I come across a review. The lady in the review is talking about how her insurance covered 90% of the pump! With some of these pumps costing up to $300+ it was COMPLETELY worth looking into.

Sure enough, I call my insurance & they say they will cover a breast pump 100%!!!!!!!!

The thing is though, that you MUST order it through one of their medical companies that they work with. After the operator provided a list of companies I looked on their website to see which pumps they provided & researched them.

They are not cheap-no name brands either but well-known & quality pumps.

I found a pump that I LOVE (You can see the review here ) & it is DEFINITELY worth a call to your insurance company, no matter what type it is.

Prayers, Shares, Cash & Cloth

18 Jul

I recently read about this company that is doing a great ministry to help our orphans. Jake’s Diapers.
I beg anyone who sees this to please check out their site, as well as The Little Bee Co. to see the beautiful blessings they are doing.

Prayers, Shares, Cash & Cloth.

Please share & post their site, it really is a beautiful, loving ministry that could literally make a world of difference.

Cloth to go

11 Jun

Traveling out & about while cloth diapering

As some of you may know, I recently began cloth diapering (CD’ing) part time for my little guy who is almost 3 months now. I wasn’t aware of all the challenges & tips needed when venturing out with a LO while CDing so I asked Blog writer Jenny Cooper of Cloth Diaper Diary to share her knowledge. Below is her post which you can find at My Cloth Diaper Diary: Cloth to go

In this blog I will be sharing what I’ve learned so far about cloth diapering on the go. We have yet to go on any long road trips or overnight trips since we started cloth diapering, so my experience is limited to mainly common everyday outings and day trips to grandparents, family or friends houses, but I hope it will be helpful to some of you.

When I first started using cloth I had only a small one-two diaper wet bag. This worked/works fine for a quick trip to the store or park, but I quickly realized was not enough for longer outings, such as a few hour outing to friends of families houses or church and lunch. I bought a medium bag and still it was not quite enough for events that turned into all day or sometimes even half the day events. I recommend a large wet bag. You rarely need that much space, but it’s always nice to have extra space as apposed to not enough. I also think it’s helpful to have at least 2 so if ones in the dirty clothes you have a back up.

In the beginning I also was unsure how many diapers to bring on outings. Since cloth diapers take up significantly more space than disposables I recommend, one, having a bigger diaper bag and, two, stashing a few extras in the car. When you’re more experienced with how many diapers your baby goes through in a given period of time or at certain times of day, you can plan how many you think you’ll need for the amount of time you think you’ll be gone, but again extra is always better.

I would say 2 of the biggest challenges about cloth on the go is rinsing poopy diapers out and having to worry about storage of dirty diaper while dealing with a squirming dirty bottomed baby. I have learned a few things that help with these issues. Firstly I get everything I need out before I take the soiled diaper off; wet bag, wipes, new diaper. When I take the diaper off and wipe the baby down I make a careful pile of trash verses things that will go into the wet bag. I pick the trash up with a clean wipe toss it in the wastebasket and throw the diaper in the wet bag, then re-diaper the baby. Some people do this for all diapers, I prefer to make my best effort to have soiled diapers as clean the situation and environment will allow.

I use what I have to rinse the diaper as clean as I can most places this means dunking and swooshing in whatever toilet is available, but I’m also very grossed out by using a public restroom toilet. For rinsing some may want to keep a pair of rubber or disposable gloves in a Ziploc or wet bag for rinsing and ringing out diapers. At public restrooms I wipe what I can with the wipes and try to get home sooner to rinse them thoroughly. The best thing has been the flushable liners, once baby is having more solid BM’s this is the best solution it helps get a lot and even sometimes all poop from getting to the actual diaper.

Now that my daughter is potty training age one thing I started doing and I think can be done even at much younger ages is I try to get her to pee on the potty before we leave the house. Even on little ones that don’t known anything about peeing on the potty can be sat down for a reasonable amount of time to see if they can go before you leave the house. This helps maximize the amount of time before they’ll need another diaper and helps prevent them from have a soiled diaper in the car, which my daughter hates.

For church Sunday school we always put her in disposables so the staff doesn’t have to deal with cloth. I don’t know what we’d do if she had to go to daycare, but I have heard of some cloth friendly daycare’s, so far we’ve been lucky enough that Grandma and Grandpa have always been able to watch our little one when we’ve needed a sitter. I recommend using AIO (All In One) diapers for sitters, they’re the easiest for inexperienced cloth diaperers. I also recommend using all the same type/brand so it’s less confusing for sitters not having to learn a new snap setting or Velcro direction for each new diaper.

I’ll let you all know how it goes whenever we do a road trip or overnight somewhere that’s at a hotel not just families house. We recently went camping, but I figured a camping trip with a toddler in a tent is tough enough without having to figure out where to wash out my cloth diapers and I also don’t think I have a big enough stash to last for 3 days. Till next time happy diapering!

What I’ve learned in 2 yrs. of parenting

6 Jun

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Tomorrow my son is turning 2 yrs old.
In those 2 yrs. I’ve learned a few things that i will carry through with me.
I’ve learned that no one has the market on hard parenting. Yes the days we have are hard (so..SO. hard some days) but someone somewhere else has it harder so don’t feel sorry for yourself or make others feel like what THEY are going through is NOTHING compared to what You Went through. Everyone has a different journey & it is no more or less than yours.

-There is millions upon millions of opinions on every parenting problem, the best piece of advice I received on this was from my mother, you gotta find what works for you & what works best for YOUR family.

-The Mother instinct is real. You know when something is wrong or not right. It may not be a life threatening illness but simply that they were not “perfectly fine” like others told you. Listen to it, it is the best gift we mothers have. We didn’t always have books or the Internet but He gave us a Great intuition.
-Take advice w a grain of salt. You may think someone has a CrAzY remedy or way they do things….only to find out later that crazy bat was on to something! : p
Be in & take lots of pictures-especially moms. You make think you look thrashed but they think your beautiful! Like one mom wrote, “I realized I’m not messing up the picture, I’m completing it”

-The days are long but the weeks are short!

-Try to enjoy those little moments; See the joy or laughter in those times you could easily bulldoze with your emotions or “need” to be on schedule. Ex; my son thought it was hilarious to NOT let me put his shorts on. In that moment I decided to enjoy hearing his little laughter & make a game of “catching” his legs 🙂

& Lastly, go easy on yourself & ease up on your parents. Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes, so forgive them & forgive yourself.

Pregnancy remarks you hate?

25 Feb

Well, it’s the countdown time!   I am 37 wks. pregnant today..YAY!

I feel every bit of this pregnancy but No I am not over it yet.

I am a little over some of the cliché pregnancy remarks though, such as…”OH! you look like you’re done! You’re ready for baby to come!/You look like you’re ready for baby to be born!” …”Doesn’t she have the look?”

which i typically reply, “Not really, cause then that means there is a baby to care for & right now it’s easier to care for him while letting him grow” 😛

& yet, the comment keeps being repeated by the saaaaaamme person. I’ve begun to view it as the equivalent of, “Somebody’s got a case of the Mondays!!” = D

Of all other prego remarks,

“wow! you look ready to pop!”

“whoa, due any day now huh?” (while you are not even close ; P

I don’t mind them, I actually think they’re funny sometimes : D But for some reason being told I look done w my pregnancy when  I still feel fine & say so starts to irk me.

Have you ever been told a pregnancy remark that you hated or loved?